Everything takes longer than I we you think

February 7, 2013

So it is about this time of every year when those new year resolutions get heavy to carry, harder to make happen. We know don’t we as conversation turns to ‘how’s it going?’, or perhaps a bigger sign of what is around the corner ‘when’s your next holiday?’
It is now, in grumpy grey and cold February, no longer Xmas and not quite Easter when we can start to feel we have failed, that we have let ourselves down.

Woah! Back up. Who needs language like that?

NLP teaches us that there is “no failure only feedback”. So in this case then, what is the feedback you are giving you?
Take a look inside and dial down that internal critical voice, and now really listen, what are you telling you?

Maybe just maybe I wonder as we all know if what has happened is that what we ‘wanted’ to have happen couldn’t in the time we had, or even at all. Taking my own experience I’m pleased with what I have achieved so far this year but my choices were ‘poorly formed goals’ and it has taken me some time to realise that I set myself up for feedback.

It is said that “feedback is the breakfast of champions”, so if the Olympics were anything to go by we should all listen to ourselves.

So stand up, give yourself an all over shake, then sit back down and reboot your goals for this year. If you are ready to talk about NLP then check in on the LBC website, and if not then these will work;
1. Plan your first step and your last – really see yourself in both places, hearing it, feeling it
2. Find a role model or a buddy – walk in someone’s footsteps
3. Make sure it passes the granny test – would she understand, and would she be proud?
4. Do yourself a favour and give yourself time, not just a deadline but also the minutes, hours and days you’ll need to invest along the way

Well formed goals always take the right time and they always deliver. Be successful.

Why don’t you tell us, what is your new well formed goal?

Thoughts

The clever Principal said “You are going to be fifty anyway”

On a holiday to the Philippines, I was lucky enough to see something both clever and stunning. I went to the north of the country to visit the one thing I really wanted to see there, the rice terraces. In the mountainous north, rice fields are just as required to grow the crop needed to feed the people as they are in the flatter lowlands. But with less flat land available, the population optimised what they had and created terraced fields to grow the rice. This is what clever, and in this case stunning, looks like. It embodies the mantra

Purpose – Start where you are; use what you have; do what you can.

If you could only have one of the following, which would you choose? £500k; or greater awareness to a cause close to your heart; or to inspire others to greatness? This week I read one of those ‘great-news-stories’ that pop up every once in a while. An 11-year-old boy slept in a tent in his back garden for 365 days, the purpose was to raise money for a hospice after fundraising events were cancelled due to covid. After he had done the entire year under canvas, he had raised £500k; he had raised awareness of the cause; and he has become

Commitment to your decision, yet flexible in your approach

Can I do commitment? Sure, I can. During lockdown, with gyms closed, I decided to do ‘Couch to 5K’, the running app. I loved it, I was really exhilarated by the continuing challenge and I completed the nine-week course by running three lots of 5K. I feel so much fitter for having done it – this is the value I gained by committing to the app. I run an internal strategy for pretty much most things that I do. I call it ‘the reward before the work’ strategy. Take my run for example, it is a ‘there-and-back circuit’. As I

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Thanks to Hayley Gelder and Dan Stevens.