So what’s new, you?

January 6, 2013

So here we are, survivors. Of both the Mayan Apocalypse (or Mayan’s running out of paper) and of the Christmas and New Year party season. Babies have been born, families have bid goodbye to loved ones, and this writer has been touched by the ‘universal law of nutrition’ – that is; ‘a little of what you fancy does you good, and a lot makes you fat’

New Year, semantically packed with our own and others meaning, often leads us to consider making changes in our life. Promises or resolutions for improvements. How many of these are familiar; giving up smoking, dieting, sorting out the finances, getting that dream job. Often these resolutions are poorly formed goals, decided upon in better easier times, or as a response to extremes. Words like must, should, and try – all secret unconscious signals to ourselves that this will be hard and we might not make it.

Well while giving up smoking is always good for anyone, it is the hardest thing to do if ‘I am a smoker’ is their identity, it is their map or way of seeing their world – because of course, take our identity away and what are we? Giving up on this resolution is one thing – giving up on yourself however, that is a different sign altogether.

So if we just learned identity is so important, what else do we require to form better goals, achievable, believable goals? Why not try stating them in the present tense “I have my dream job and I am happy” – then ask yourself ‘what would have to be true for that to be true’?
This could become your to do list. By when do you want this – establish a timeline you can stick to.
Then ask yourself ‘what is my first step, my last step and who is there that can help me?’ ‘Would everyone want me to have what I have got?’
Then spend some time in that future place feeling what you will feel, hearing what you will hear and seeing what you will see. Nice right? You are closer to having it than you were before – already.

Anything is possible.

Make 2013 the year you think a little more, about who you are and want to be, come back to us with the questions you want answering, the changes you are choosing to make. Make this the year that you “put your own mask on first, before helping others” and challenge yourself to make your fast and permanent change with NLP and Learning Behaviour and Change.

Got a comment on any of the above, post it here. Happy New You

Thoughts

The clever Principal said “You are going to be fifty anyway”

On a holiday to the Philippines, I was lucky enough to see something both clever and stunning. I went to the north of the country to visit the one thing I really wanted to see there, the rice terraces. In the mountainous north, rice fields are just as required to grow the crop needed to feed the people as they are in the flatter lowlands. But with less flat land available, the population optimised what they had and created terraced fields to grow the rice. This is what clever, and in this case stunning, looks like. It embodies the mantra

Purpose – Start where you are; use what you have; do what you can.

If you could only have one of the following, which would you choose? £500k; or greater awareness to a cause close to your heart; or to inspire others to greatness? This week I read one of those ‘great-news-stories’ that pop up every once in a while. An 11-year-old boy slept in a tent in his back garden for 365 days, the purpose was to raise money for a hospice after fundraising events were cancelled due to covid. After he had done the entire year under canvas, he had raised £500k; he had raised awareness of the cause; and he has become

Commitment to your decision, yet flexible in your approach

Can I do commitment? Sure, I can. During lockdown, with gyms closed, I decided to do ‘Couch to 5K’, the running app. I loved it, I was really exhilarated by the continuing challenge and I completed the nine-week course by running three lots of 5K. I feel so much fitter for having done it – this is the value I gained by committing to the app. I run an internal strategy for pretty much most things that I do. I call it ‘the reward before the work’ strategy. Take my run for example, it is a ‘there-and-back circuit’. As I

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Thanks to Hayley Gelder and Dan Stevens.